Growing up is hard to do... but worth it.

I never really dated until college, I just didn't have the desire to date. Dating was always a stressful situation of expectations and disappointments. Even when I started dating I never felt like settling down, I was always looking for the next best thing. I was looking for that super model built like a brick house that made enough money to be my sugar mama and me her toy boy, intelligent, witty, charismatic, etc. Yes I exaggerate, but you get the idea.

After a time the years roll by and you start to realize that you are not getting any younger. If you want to accomplish things in life you have to get on top of it. You begin to realize there are more important things in life other than money and looks and if anything is going to be accomplished YOU have to do it. I had to change myself, no one was going to swoop in and change me. First I began to realize that my dream girl probably didn't exist (all right, maybe there's two women in the world with those qualifications), and even if she did, why would she want to date a schmuck such as myself? So instead of looking for the impossible I started looking for the the important qualifications. Things such as honesty, open mindedness, willing to accept me for who I am and doesn't nag me to change, some common interests, loyalty. When you make these changes in your outlook amazing things start to happen. You start to find treasure where you wouldn't have looked before.

It takes a lot of self reflection and hard work, you really have to analyze what really motivates you and why, but it's worth it. I have now been dating the sweetest, most supportive, most accepting, most open minded, with a dash of adventurous thrown in for good measure, gal in the world (and cute to boot). I like to think of it for my reward for leaving that part of my boyishness behind and growing into more of a man.

The greatest challenge in life is fessing up to who you really are and changing that if necessary.

So if you haven't taken this journey yet (Donald Trump, are you listening?), I highly recommend it.